I also listen--and not only to books. On Monday I was without an audio book so I caught up on the news by listening to N.P.R. on the way into work. "Morning Edition" had a delightful interview with film maker Mike Mills that resonated with me in so many ways.
There's some movies I watch, they're kind of like my anti-anxiety pill, my anti-depressant pill. I watch them at least once or twice a month probably.
Someone who "gets it!!" I did one of those stupid-over-used- YES!-fist-pumps, nearly swerved the car into a window company truck and smiled all the rest of the way to work! While Mills' list is nothing like mine, I loved that the Humphrey Bogart movies were apparently a sort of subliminal emulation of his mother who frequently said that in her next life she'd marry Bogart. He even used the delightful phrase "Bogartean hats" which makes me think of in terms of my favorite movies that I think of or say in certain situations. How many dull meetings have I visualized the Calendar Girls (approximately 1:10 in the clip below) trying to stay awake for the history of rugs or cauliflower? [Admit it, you've sat thru meetings or sermons where you had to be nudged to clap or smile or whatever was expected at the end, right? And, yes! I DO appreciate how hard it is to get good speakers on a nothing budget.]
"Aw, Thank God! For a minute there I thought it was going to be dull!"
What movies like "Calendar Girls," or "Steel Magnolias" or shows such as "Keeping Up Appearances" or "As Times Goes by" (or even my favorite child-torturing royal documentaries) do is remind me through their familiar lines and images, and sometimes even their story lines, of connection--of friends and caring. They take away the loneliness of being an adult living somewhere new (even after almost 4 years) and trying to forge new friendships not supplement the older, tried and true but now long-distance ones.
Here are a few of my favorite "comfort" shows or movies:
Keeping Up Appearances
As Time Goes By
That Touch of Mink
The Grass is Greener
Four Weddings and a Funeral
In Harm's Way (when I miss my Dad)
Sabrina (the original version with Bogart)
The Trouble With Angels and Where Angels Go, Trouble Follows
Yours, Mine and Ours (either version)
Auntie Mame or Mame
Parent Trap (either version) (funny, all 3 of us will pull this one out)
Alvin and the Chipmunks (always with one child who'd die if the name was revealed)
There are others, but those are the main ones. And, yes, I have favorite books that give me the same lift, too. I've posted most of them elsewhere.
Loneliness is often a fault of my own though. I'm shy--yes, shy, especially on the phone. And, with 2 exceptions in the entire world, there is no one I'd be comfortable dropping in on. The phone is the same way for me--that's why I like texting and emails. As a single parent loneliness also comes from not wanting to put my needs first--or not making time to do that. Some times favorite movies, books or music can fill that ache. I do now have a few friends locally that I text and see at Church, but often there's no time to get together when we're all moms and mostly single ones to boot. My long-distance friends ARE there for me, but sometimes films are a nice salve on my mood.
How about you? Anything you re-read, re-watch or listen to over and over as a comfort measure? Leave your favorites in a comment. Who knows? Maybe you'll lead me to a new favorite!